When Ansari told her he was going to grab a condom within minutes of their first kiss, Grace voiced her hesitation explicitly. Everything was pretty much touched and done within ten minutes of hooking up, except for actual sex.” She says Ansari began making a move on her that he repeated during their encounter.“I said something like, ‘Whoa, let’s relax for a sec, let’s chill.’” She says he then resumed kissing her, briefly performed oral sex on her, and asked her to do the same thing to him. “The move he kept doing was taking his two fingers in a V-shape and putting them in my mouth, in my throat to wet his fingers, because the moment he’d stick his fingers in my throat he’d go straight for my vagina and try to finger me.” Grace called the move “the claw.” Ansari also physically pulled her hand towards his penis multiple times throughout the night, from the time he first kissed her on the countertop onward.“I wasn’t really even thinking of that, I didn’t want to be engaged in that with him.But he kept asking, so I said, ‘Next time.’ And he goes, ‘Oh, you mean second date?When her plane landed back in New York the next day, she already had a message from him.
“When the waiter came over he quickly asked for the check and he said like, ‘Let’s get off this boat.’” She recalls there was still wine in her glass and more left in the bottle he ordered. “Like, he got the check and then it was bada-boom, bada-bing, we’re out of there.” They walked the two blocks back to his apartment building, an exclusive address on Tri Be Ca’s Franklin Street, where Taylor Swift has a place too.
The day after the incident, she wrote a long text to Ansari, saying: “I just want to take this moment to make you aware of [your] behavior and how uneasy it made me.” To that message, Ansari responds: “Clearly, I misread things in the moment and I’m truly sorry.” The mobile phone number from which his texts to her were sent matches up with his details on a searchable public register. When we met, Ansari had just won Best Actor for his Netflix show “Master Of None” at the Golden Globes, where he declared his support for the fight against sexual assault and harassment by wearing a “Time’s Up” pin on the red carpet.
Before meeting Ansari, Grace told friends and coworkers about the date and consulted her go-to group chat about what she should wear to fit the “cocktail chic” dress-code he gave her.
“So it was like, ‘Okay, what if this is one of those types of guys and we just get the audience to love him?
And then pull the rug out from under them at the end and reveal that he’s actually not a good dude?